Create a lasting impact by leaving a legacy

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Leaving a legacy is all about how you want to be remembered in future years—whether by your loved ones or even your greater community.

Legacy building isn’t just about bequeathing money. It isn’t just writing down wishes in a will and leaving your heirs to work out the details. It means getting your affairs and plans in order while you’re alive.

In a sense, your legacy is the impact you’ve made on the world around you. So plan to make it a positive one while you still have the chance. Leaving a legacy the right way takes some work.

Legacies can mean different things to different people. For some, legacies are intangible; they are about a family’s history and values. For others, a legacy is about caring for and passing down family heirlooms to the next generation. Heirlooms can include anything from great-grandparents’ diaries and cookbooks to jewelry, artwork, or even land. Legacies can also be something established at an institution, such as funding a scholarship or planting trees in a community park.

It can be tough to get the legacy conversation started because legacy planning involves two topics most people find hard to discuss: death and money. But if you want to be remembered in a specific way, communication is key.

Here are a few conversation starters and things to keep in mind:

Let’s be real: Not everyone can have Grandma’s necklace. But through openness and a willingness to compromise, you can usually find a solution that works for everyone.

Some families do have that difficult relative who’s looking to cause trouble or selfishly try to grab as much as possible. Ultimately it’s up to you, the owner, to decide how to bequeath your estate.

Having these discussions now can build trust and save some hurt feelings down the road. You might even decide to hand down specific items now. There’s no clearer way to make your intentions known and ensure the younger generations know how to care for important (often fragile) items.

Plus, it’s a way to declutter your home. As anyone who’s had to hire a dumpster to clear the estate of a borderline hoarder will tell you, a decluttered estate is often the best legacy you could leave.

Sometimes parents or grandparents buy vacation property in order to celebrate family memories and leave a lasting gift for future generations. Putting that property in a trust is one way to safeguard it, but there are questions to consider:

You (and any current co-owners) should write a list of rules for the trustee to follow and enforce. Getting input from family members can help you understand the family dynamics and preferences. For example, if half the family wants to keep the property for multiple generations, and the other half wants to cash out, what’s the protocol?

You don’t want your legacy to be the cause of a rift in the family.

Selling or donating an heirloom is another alternative to establishing a legacy. This can be a good option if something is particularly valuable and heirs may not be able to maintain it or don’t want it. If your goal is to donate an item:

For charity-minded people and families, donations are a great way to express values. For families, having these discussions is a way to strengthen bonds between generations. When younger and older generations discuss a family gift, it can have significant, positive ramifications by instilling pride among family members and creating a long-term connection between the family and the organization.

For individuals or couples, donations are a way to build relationships with favorite institutions or charities and establish gift-giving.

Don’t surprise a person or organization by leaving a significant property in your will and assuming the heirs will work everything out. That can set up descendants for long hours of work, potential heartache, and possible fights over possessions. The last thing you want is for your legacy to be one of confusion and hurt feelings because you assumed you knew what other people wanted.

Establishing endowed scholarships can leave an impact on recipients, but contact the school to make sure it has people in place who can administer the funds. Also, consider if the financial gift is sizable enough to either last many years or give enough monetary support to a recipient.

And if your plan includes leaving or scattering your cremains at an institution to which you donate, be sure to contact them to make sure it’s allowed.

Your legacy isn’t something you can leave to chance. Take the time you need to get your affairs in order. Think carefully about the lasting influence you want your gift to have and how you want to be remembered.