Making the move to assisted living: What to know before you decide.
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Assisted living is just what it sounds like: a helping hand for both the individual moving into a care facility and their family and caregivers. Although the definition may be straightforward, the decisions involved in choosing an assisted living facility can be difficult. If youâre beginning to think about assisted livingâfor yourself, or for a family member or friendâunderstanding what these facilities offer and how to find the right fit can make the process a little less daunting.
Key Points
- The decision to move to an assisted living facility is complex and calls for careful consideration of physical, emotional, and financial needs.
- Begin exploring options and asking questions sooner rather than later.
- Moving involves major change; plan for both short-term needs and long-term comfort.
When is it time for assisted living?
The idea of staying in a family homeâor even an independent living communityâis often the goal as people age. Acknowledging that it may be time to move to an assisted living facility means recognizing that you or a loved one may need more help, and that realization can be difficult. It can be such a hard step that many families delay talking about it, hoping things will somehow get better or at least stabilize.
Itâs rare that you find the perfect moment to discuss moving into an assisted living facility. When the thought first arises that you or a loved one might need more help, itâs time to start exploring options. From a care perspective, moving too early is almost always better than moving too late.
The goal of assisted living is to provide the help you need and the peace of mind you and your family want, while maintaining your independence to make choices about things such as activities and meals.
What are activities of daily living (ADLs)?
Activities of daily livingâoften shortened to ADLsâare the basic tasks that allow someone to live independently. They include eating, bathing, dressing, using the toilet, moving safely, and taking prescribed medications. The ability to perform ADLs is a common measure used by health care professionals to determine the level of support an older adult may need.
What to consider before choosing assisted living
The decision to move to an assisted living facility is a major one, involving health, finances, and family relationships. Understanding what assisted living offers is the first step toward finding the right fit.
- Daily life and care: Assisted living helps with activities of daily living (ADLs), which can include bathing, managing medications, dressing, and moving around. Staff are available around the clock, but residents typically do not require 24-hour care.
- Costs: Assisted living is expensive. As of 2024, the median annual cost for an assisted living facility was just under $71,000. That amount can vary widely depending on the size and location of the facility and the services it offers.
- Paying for care: Medicare typically doesnât cover assisted living. Most individuals or families use savings or long-term care policies to pay the cost.
How to choose the right assisted living facility
Choosing an assisted living facility begins with research. Start by looking on the Internet for facilities near where you (or your loved one) want to live. Youâll also find services that assess your needs and recommend facilities. These referrals can be useful, but be aware that theyâre typically paid by the communities they suggest, presenting a potential conflict of interest. Friends and family who have been through the process are another valuable resource; their recommendations can be insightful.
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After youâve compiled a list of facilities, call each one to learn about its services, activities, and environment. Youâll likely talk with salespeople, so pay attention to the information given and the tone in which it is offered. If you donât like the vibe, cross them off the list. Narrow your selections and then schedule visits. Family members can do initial visits to further narrow choices, but the person making the move should be an essential part of the decision-making process. After all, theyâll be the one living there.
At its best, assisted living is a mix of independence, interaction, and assistance. Residents typically donât need to worry about meal preparation, housekeeping, or maintenance issues associated with living in their own home.
When you visit, pay attention to the details that reveal how daily life really feels like. These questions can help you know what to look for.
Daily life and atmosphere
- What is a typical day like?
- Do the activities match your or your loved oneâs interests?
- Is the setting appealingâviews, outdoor spaces, and natural light?
- What are the meals like, and how much choice do residents have?
Living space
- Is there a choice of room types (studio, one bedroom, etc.), and how large are they?
- Can residents bring personal furnishings, including their own furniture?
- What are the shared spaces like? Are they clean, comfortable, inviting, and well maintained?
Staff and support
- What is the staff-to-resident ratio? An industry benchmark for assisted living is about one caregiver for every eight residents. A lower ratio (for example, one to four) suggests more personalized attention and quicker response when needs arise.
- Do staff members seem attentive and call residents by name? The way staff interact is a good indicator of training, turnover, and level of care.
Health and medical services
- Is a primary care doctor available on site, or does the facility help with scheduling off-site visits and arranging transportation?
- How are dental, podiatry, and mental health services provided?
- Is there an on-site pharmacy or a service that delivers medications and handles changes when new prescriptions are needed?
- Do physical, occupational, and speech therapists routinely visit the facility?
Planning
These questions are never easy to ask, but itâs better to raise them early than to face them in a crisis:
- What is the process for determining when greater care is needed?
- If memory care or skilled nursing becomes necessary, does the facility help coordinate that move, either on-site or elsewhere?
- Is hospice or other end-of-life care available if needed?
Paying for assisted living
Costs
Assisted living can be expensive, so itâs worth weighing the cost against other options. For example:
- What would it cost to stay at home with a home health aide? Keep in mind that an assisted living facility has staff available around the clock.
- Could adult day care or respite programs meet some needs while allowing family caregivers a break?
The cost of assisted living today isnât what it will be five or 10 years from now. Do you have enough to cover future expenses? Nationally, assisted living costs rose more than 50% from 2012 to 2023. The increase reflects not only inflation, but also the increased demand from an aging population and the challenge of maintaining a stable workforce.
When comparing facilities, ensure you understand all the costs: entrance fees, security deposits, and monthly rent. In some communities, units are purchased like homes, with a percentage refunded when you leave. Renting and buying each have their own advantages and disadvantages, and both should be discussed before signing a contract.
How will you pay for assisted living? Medicare doesnât cover it, so you may have to rely on other funding sources:
Finally, ask what happens if your money runs out. Does the facility accept Medicaid, and if so, what standards must be met to qualify?
Questions to ask before signing a contract
Before committing to an assisted living facility, review the details carefully. These questions can help you understand what youâre agreeing to and avoid surprises later:
- What services are included in the monthly rate, and which cost extra?
- How often can rates increase, and by how much?
- Are entrance fees or security deposits refundable?
- What happens if personal funds run out? Does the facility accept Medicaid or offer other options?
- What is the policy for ending the contract if health needs change or a move becomes necessary?
Moving into assisted living is a major life decisionâone that you or your family may be inclined to put off. But the decision may be easier when you understand that assisted living can provide a needed helping hand and peace of mind while still offering a level of independence.
As with any major change in life, itâs best to do your research, ask questions, and make choices in consultation with trusted family and friends. Thatâs the best recipe for making a decision that accounts for your emotional, physical, and financial well-being.
This article was most recently revised and updated by Tracy GrantThis article was most recently revised and updated by David Schepp
