A Call to Compassion
When we are concerned mainly with our own interests, inevitably we tend to neglect othersā interests. Because of this, preoccupation with our own interestsāour own narrow desires, ambitions, and goalsāundermines our ability to be compassionate. And since compassion is the source of happiness, self-centeredness prevents us from attaining that spiritual peaceāpeace of heart and mindāwhich is the principal characteristic of lasting happiness. Conversely, the more we concern ourselves with providing for othersā well-being, the more meaningful our lives become and the happier we ourselves will be.
(Read Britannicaās biography of the Dalai Lama.)
This is not to suggest that we all become full-time charity workers. What is more helpfulāand practicalāis that we become full-time workers of ācharityā in the sense of kindness and compassion towards all others. As we do so, we will discover that ultimately there is no sharp distinction between our own interests and othersā interests. We all desire and appreciate affection, forbearance, truth, justice, and peace. And these are all both contained within and the fruits of compassion.
In helping others, we provide for our own happiness because happiness is not, we find, an end in itself. Rather it is a by-product of those actions we take for the benefit of others. Thus in serving others we serve ourselves. This is why I sometimes call compassion āwise selfishness.ā Compassion entails exercising restraint and disciplining our negative thoughts and emotions out of a sense of responsibility towards all others. Yet alongside kindness, generosity, patience, tolerance, forgiveness, humility, and so on, these are the very things that happiness consists in. Compassion makes us happy!